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Fly Fishing, (Man Time)

Fly Fishing, (Man Time)

Me and my boy are pretty tight, I’m sure this is the same for lots of father and son relationships.

Sadly, I never had this growing up ( long story ) and so I’ve been determined that Ben, my son, and I would have this close bond and to get this bond boys need time with their dad, simple.

A friend of mine, let’s call him Tim, and I used to go salmon fishing each year. His dad would tag along with us, he’d include his dad in a lot of his leisure time, an amazing thing to me considering my upbringing, and together, the three of us, would have a great time, great food and drink, mediocre fishing, but amazing company, both guys a being a real pleasure to be around.

One day, his dad took me aside, I had a little girl at this time Poppy and my wife was pregnant, we were hopeful for a boy.

Tim’s dad, let’s call him John, explained to me that if we did have a little boy that boys are far more different and at times more complex than girls when it comes to their relationship with their dad.

“Once they hit seven years old, you must spend time with your son. There’s whole new world of testosterone and other hormones running through them and from seven years old onwards they need ‘man time’!

John had a few sons, and he was adamant that he’d go out with them for ‘man time’ at least once a week.

“By doing this now Steven, spending this time with them, you’ll build a solid relationship, one that’s so strong you can manoeuvre them as they get older, they don’t resent you, they look up to you!

You’ll be able to have them wanting to spend their time with you rather than doing daft stuff!” By daft stuff he highlighted teenage boy nonsense, like being an idiot and getting into trouble pretty much.

Looking at his sons, every one is a gent, it was hard to argue with his formula! Wise words…..

My boy is sport daft, in no particular order here are his hobbies and the clubs that he’s involved with..

Rugby

Football

Cricket

Swimming

BMX

All of these he loves but I cannot get involved. I go to Rugby each week and swimming and I also take him BMXing, but I can’t get involved.

Fishing though, his new thing, I certainly can, what’s more I can nurture and encourage it.

We started off a few years ago, a spot of crabbing on the beach, then it was coarse fishing, this was fun, I loved it as much as he did, there’s something about the electric jolt of the float bobbing under!

But he always wanted to ‘go fishing with dad’ which meant fly fishing.

So, we started fly casting in the garden, talk about frustration, jees, but he kind of got to grips with it. We moved on, trying to get the fluff on the end of his line into different hoops placed around the garden. He loved that, it’s a game then, boys love to compete, even if it’s just against themselves!

Finally, a few weeks ago, I booked an evening boat on Draycote Water, ‘same family fishing’ during these times. I’d timed it so that we could flick dry flies and perhaps catch a fish!

The team there are awesome, it’s a great example of well run fishery, clean, tidy, friendly and knowledgeable staff – and they took the time to make by boy feel very welcome!

For Ben, I’d made the fishing simple..

Roll the line, straighten it then cast, single fly, easy peasy really!

Well, what a blast we had.

He had the excitement of being in a boat, in a large body of water, being with his dad, and casting a fly rod, his own one! He was buzzing, and so was I!

It was a stunning evening, the occasional fish moving, he loved seeing them and got far too over excited trying to cast at them, which led to some impressive tangles even with the one fly!

It was perfect.

I’d catch one and pass the rod to him, and he’d be in his element, fighting the large, resident trout like Hemingway playing a 1000lb marlin. The rod going this way and that, pumping and winding, the fish pulling the rod around this way and that as he struggled to contain it’s powerful lunges. He often yelped in pain and surprise as the reel handle whacked him on the back of the knuckles as the fish powered off.

 

Trying his best to subdue a rainbow trout on the big rod..

 

However, the highlight of the evening for both of us, was when I saw a fish coming upwind, I knew if he could roll his fly anywhere near it, that this trout would take.

“Ben roll straight out in front, there’s a fish!”

“I can’t see one dad, where?”

“Just roll it baby, now, quickly!!”

He did his fly – a possum emerger, the only thing I had that wouldn’t sink after the maniac casting style, alighted on the water like thistledown I kid you not!

It disappeared in a swirl.

“LIFT THE ROD!” I shouted!

He did and the little 3-wt hooped over as the fish went crazy and went deep away from the boat!

I was stunned, Ben was stunned, we were stunned, both of us drinking in the moment of shared elation!

After the first run and he’d gained some control it went under the boat, not once but twice and nearly taking Ben with it as he held on, leaning over the boat trying to follow it!

After what seemed an age it came up near the boat and I launched at it with the net, I wanted this fish sooooo bad, I got lucky, it went in first time of asking!

Ben: “I did it, I did it dad, I caught one, I caught one on my own, it’s huge!”

 

Fish well and truly on…

 

His very own, caught and landed with no interference from his dad, first rainbow trout! A happy laddie and a happy dad!

 

Well, I can’t tell you how good it made me feel, I was as chuffed as he was, probably more so, my little boy’s first trout, from a drifting boat and on a dry fly too, get in!

 

There was no sinking this bad boy, a possum emerger, the exact one is now in my tying room, a keepsake!

 

The excitement never ended there though, what’s more exciting than catching a big trout on a dry fly from a drifting boat?

Well, for a seven-year-old it’s driving the boat back to the harbour, even if your feet don’t touch the floor!

 

“Dad, no photos, I’m concentrating face!”

If you have a little boy, try and get him involved, nothing heavy, just see of they like it. Girls too, I used to take my daughter but she is bored of it now, so there’s no point in pushing it.

I guess what I’m getting at is this, spend time with your kids, it’s a simple message. I’m lucky that my boy is into the same things as me.

He’s also, like me in many ways, for one he’s competitive. His last comment as we came onto the harbour was this..

“Dad, I think my fish was bigger than yours.”

That’s my boy!

 

Ben capturing my smile after his first fish landed!

 

 

PS: My daughter, Poppy, said that she wanted a mention as she saw me write this, so here it is..

Poppy, you’re beautiful, crazy clever, stylish,  full of empathy and compassion for others too, in a nutshell, just like your mum.

 

See what I did there….

 

If you’d like to get out on Draycote Water or indeed, Thornton or Eyebrook, all of which are run by Ifor Jones and his team, then tickets can be booked through the website:

Book your fishing here…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How To Tie the DOUBLE MAGGOT

Yes, it’s obscene, BUT it serves a purpose.

With most grayling rivers being bait fished and most with maggots, following a bait fisher hampers your catch rate, so copy what they are fishing with, simple!